In the movie, War of the Roses, Danny DeVito cautions, “When a couple starts keeping score, there is no winning…only degrees of losing.” There is a lot of work involved to avoid the score keeping, not to mention to protect yourself and secure your future. But it doesn’t have to turn into the knock-down drag-out like that between Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner.
Once you and your spouse have determined whom will be responsible for each account, the next step is to notify the creditor and begin to take action. As I mentioned in my previous post, just because the divorce decree says you aren’t responsible for an account any longer…it is meaningless to the creditor. The divorce decree does not relieve either party of financial responsibility.
Here is a list of some typical joint accounts many married couples share and tips on what you need to do with each .
Home Mortgage: This should be your first priority of business. A mortgage is the strongest weighted credit reported to the credit bureaus, and it is important to safeguard your history. You have a couple of options to split the marital property – that are far better than splitting the square footage as in the movie.
- Sell the home
- Have one spouse refinance the home into his/her name only
- Pay off the remaining balance from investment accounts
Note: Don’t take your name off title if the home has not been sold, refinanced, or paid off. If you sign a quit claim deed, you are removing yourself from an ownership position…not altering your financial responsibility.
Car Loans: Another big monthly payment and also the second most important type of credit that appears on your credit report. This should be your next order of business. As with a home loan, auto loans can be handled the same way:
- Sell the car
- Have one spouse refinance the car into his/her name

Credit Cards: This is where business tends to get sticky. Most people think that as long as they close the existing cards, all is well. Unfortunately this is where the nightmare could easily begin. Here’s why: while the card is no longer available for charging, it is still active until the balance is paid in full. And if your spouse takes the financial responsibility – you have to blindly trust he or she will pay on time and protect your credit rating until the card is completely paid off. Here are some solutions to avoid a potential ugly mess without having a War of the Roses knock-down drag- out:
- Pay the card off with your settlement from the divorce, then close the account.
- Sell a joint asset to pay off the debt, then close the account.
- Apply for a separate credit card for each account and transfer the agreed upon balances to the new card. This new card is a sole and separate account from the joint debt accounts.
- If one of you cannot qualify, explore having a relative co-sign on a new card, then transfer the balances.
For any other type of accounts that don’t fit into the categories above, use the same basic rule: pay off or transfer all the existing joint indebtedness to a separate sole account, then close the joint account. No exceptions.
Taking care of business will give you a little peace of mind and set you on the path for a smooth financial new beginning. Don’t delay!
Here’s to new beginnings…
Elizabeth Rose







